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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video I'm going to talk about depression I'm going to answer the question of why am i you depressed okay so why are you depressed what is the cause of your depression what is the root cause and what are some ways that you can start to get a handle on it so depression is an epidemic it's out there so many of us especially in first world countries nowadays are starting to actually get more and more signs of depression why is this going on what's happening here what is the rock-bottom truth about depression all right here is the deal I'm going to be blunt with you here because the bottom line is that the reason you're depressed is because your psychology sucks all right you've got [ __ ] psychology I'm not blaming you I'm telling you a fact now there's really two cases here that I'm going to distinguish there are people who are watching this that are going to be clinically depressed that are actually going to have perhaps legitimate physiological conditions that are contributing to their depression but I want to be very careful about saying that because most of you when you're especially when you're depressed in a depressive type of state are going to be quick to look for a way to be a victim and to not take responsibility for how you're feeling and for the fact that you are causing your own depression all right so even though there are clinical cases which I'm going to suggest that if you are a clinical case go and see a medical doctor or go see a psychiatrist put yourself on medication perhaps if that's the right course for you so there's that then there's the other half of you and I would say it's not the HAP it's the majority by lot by and large the majority that are really just in a bad psychological state and that your depression is not really genetic and it's not really clinical all right this is just bad psychology and the fact that you have not taken responsibility for your own personal development and so that's really what we're gonna tackle here all right so let's break into this now I want to be very clear here that no matter who you think you are you are going to listen to this talk and you're going to assume that you're in this group of the people that have a shitty psychology because I can guarantee that even if you do have biological clinical factors to your depression your psychology still sucks so you're going to want to look at the psychology and the fact is that this psychology getting this in place is way more important than getting the clinical stuff in place and that actually you can totally negate the clinical stuff when you get your psychology really into shape alright when you really understand yourself when you understand what's going on here so I'm going to get into this and I'm gonna give you some techniques alright so here's the bottom line is that your happiness level scientifically it's been shown it's about 50% genetic so they've done Studies on fraternal twins identical twins comparing and they've shown that basically people have a certain happiness set point and that about half of it 50% of it which is quite a lot is determined by genetics you can read more about this like various research and positive psychology literature that's out there a lot of new studies are being published all the time right now in the 21st century but really the book the howl of happiness has some some good evidence and discussion about the the genetic side of depression and you can find books and other resources out there that will talk about the genetic causes and maybe some of the clinical causes some of the chemical imbalances going on in your brain that might be causing it but I really want to encourage you stop being a victim and take ownership of it right take ownership of your own psychology because the software the mindset that you've got the software that's running up in your head is more important in a sense than the the hardware and that's not strictly true mean hardware is really really important but I think that people are just so quick to point to external sources of problems that they really ignore the most important source of the problem which is themselves and their mindsets so that's what we're getting into all right so the biggest reason that you are depressed is because you are too identified with yourself you're too self-absorbed and you're too self identified in you're too egotistical now this might sound a little bit harsh and your immediate reaction might be to say well egotistical I'm not egotistical I'm a really kind and sweet and nice person I go to church and I do community service that I do I do good things for my family and I take care of my spouse and you know how I'm not egotistical I'm humble you're egotistical in the sense that you have a strong sense of who you are and that actually your depression is contributing to your sense of who you are and this is a deep idea this is actually an Enlightenment level idea this is an idea that you work on when you're going through and you're working towards enlightenment through Zen through meditation and this is something that goes deep so unless you're a real student of this you're not going to really understand it when you first start but I want you to start to just get an idea around what's going on here you the person that you think is you your ego right when I say your name who you think you are your past history all your beliefs all your assumption about how the world works alright the bottom line is that all that is a concept all that is conceptual it doesn't actually exist anywhere that I that you call EU that I that is depressed it doesn't actually exist now it's one thing to understand this conceptually and intellectually it's another thing to actually be aware of it on an experiential being level to do that you need to work on well you need to do a lot of deep meditation deep contemplation and work towards enlightenment the more you do that the more you start to get aware of that right that can take months years of serious work but the festival remains that you are extremely identified with who you are all your problems all the circumstances that are hurting you all the ways in which you are a victim and in many in a in a big sense your depression is about you you are extremely self-absorbed when you're focused on yourself so much and you're focused on all your problems and you've got these negative thinking patterns that are deep-rooted and are deeply ingrained in your subconscious you're always running through you're always worrying you're always panic you're always anxious you're catastrophizing situations you're thinking about yourself that's making you depressed all right that is the bottom line of it you also probably have a negative self-image at the bottom line the reason that you're probably going into these spirals of negative thinking and these deep dark emotions is because you have a negative self-image so you think something inherently is wrong with you on some level I don't know what it is maybe you think you're unlovable maybe you think that you need approval from other people maybe you think the happiness can be found out there somewhere and that someone owes you something maybe you think that you're not good enough maybe you think that life is just hard it's inherently painful it has to be painful there's always suffering around right and that you deserve that suffering now a lot of these ideas they sound silly when we just talked about that when we when we voice them consciously but a lot of times it's happenings that those are operating on you on a subconscious level you don't even realize what's actually going on here you might feel that you're depressed because for example you don't have the relationship that you want and you keep failing to get it the relationship that you want but the reason you keep failing to get into that relationship that you want and you keep trying and stuff breaks up and you get into bad miserable relationships nothing seems to work the reason that's happening perhaps this is just an example is that actually you're very needy in that relationship and you're very insecure so whenever you get that relationship you become very attached very loving and you might think well what's wrong with that well actually what's happening is that you're not fulfilled with yourself and the reason that you're becoming so insecure and needy is because you're not comfortable with who you are you're not fulfilled as yourself you don't realize that you can be fulfilled by yourself and the reason that might be is because you feel like you need approval from other people and that you now need to live up to other people's expectations of you and the reason that might be is because well you want to be loved and you feel like love is the most important thing and that you're lacking it then on some level you need that love and deep down the reason that you might want that love for example is you feel that you are not good enough just as you are right now without having to be somebody at somebody else and so that whole chain of beliefs and assumptions and logic it might be completely logical it might sound silly but that whole chain might actually be running on you and I can bet that a lot of people watching this if thousands of people are watching this that a good percentage of you have that exact chain of reasoning going through which is causing you your miserable relationships and that will always that patter will always keep running because that is the subconscious those are the subconscious layers so that might be creating a lot of depression for you right you have to start to get more in touch with what's really really going on there and start to realize that a lot of this stuff is just [ __ ] a lot of it is past conditioning from past traumatic experiences from childhood from early adulthood maybe you've had some bad breakups you had some some trauma and so those things are holding you back but that is your personal past history that is not the case right now in fact I can guarantee you that if we put you into a meditation program where we forced you to meditate for an hour every single day for let's say six months if we forced you to do that then your depression would be either entirely lifted or it would make a really big impact on your depression because what meditation does for example is it puts you in the present moment and this is a fact all right this is not a concept if you right now drop you can do this exercise if you right now drop your past history completely forget about it just at least for a second forget your past history forget your future history forget that you have a future forget that you have a past be completely in the moment right now get rid of every single thought you have in your mind get rid of your idea of yourself pretend like you are dead you have no more life you have no more ego you have no more conceptualizations you have no more beliefs about how the world is and how it works and you just sit in quiet and peace close your eyes as you're doing this and you just focus on that and you do that for ten minutes and you're very disciplined about this you're going to feel you're going to get a real feeling this is not a concept it's not an idea not a theory you can get a real feeling of what real happiness is you're going to feel genuine happiness this is not some sort of external stimulation this is not some sort of titillation or excitement and you're going to notice that whatever depression you've had does not exist in that moment right that's because each one of us when we get rid of our ego the natural state of the human psychology is total bliss and happiness this is extremely powerful idea if you thought that your depression has been so crippling that you can't break out if I really encourage you to try this and prove it to yourself on an experiential level right but really try it you have to try it and it takes some work to actually do this this is not going to come naturally if you've never been meditating before if you've never sat quietly alone in a room by yourself before for thirty minutes then you're going to find yourself really struggling and resisting first time you do it you might actually become more anxious because it feels very unnatural and your mind is hooked it's probably hooked on all sorts of external stimulation so go unhook yourself and start very small start with minute just try to do it for a minute and see see if you can tap into even five seconds of just that pure happiness of being in the present moment you'll see that it when it when you actually do that you'll see that it's very possible it's actually not as hard as we make it out to be and this proves to you that really a lot of your depression is self-created as your natural state is not a depressive state nobody is naturally in a depressive state maybe with I would say an extremely extremely extremely few people that might have some sort of serious physiological condition do not put yourself into that category until that has been confirmed by someone with a PhD all right and even then I would say or I'm an MD do not put yourself into that category and even then I would say even if a doctor puts you in that category still question that because a lot of doctors that are out there do not understand the power of these psychological ideas that I'm talking about to you here these are so so powerful all right so other ideas that I'm going to throw out you here really quickly here's what you need to know other reason that you could be in depression most definitely you are in depression because of this root cause but then there's other things that are adding on to it here are some other things one is that you're not living in integrity with your values all right each of us has core values that are important to us and when you're not living and honoring those on a practical level every single day then you become lazy undisciplined you start to feel guilty you start to procrastinate right so maybe that's just not splurging on that ice cream maybe it's waking up on time maybe it's going to the gym maybe it's getting to work on time maybe it's doing your work well and when you're not doing these things you're breaking your values that's making you miserable and it's feeding into your depression it's not really causing it I would say I'd say it's feeding into it another thing I would say that is feeding into your depression and it's actually a a symptom and an outgrowth of this ego problem that you have is being inauthentic and fake around people and being fake with yourself it's not being honest about the emotions that you're actually feeling it's being around people and trying to please other people trying to live up to other people's standards and expectations society's expectations it's not being independent and realizing that actually you are totally happy and blissful in your natural state when you're not thinking any kind of crazy thoughts and that you do not need anybody to fulfill you and in fact nobody else in life can fulfill you no human being can fulfill you no external object can fulfill you this is all a question of your inner psychology this is a problem not just for depressive people this is a problem for almost everybody out there is not realizing that you could not find deep fulfillment in anything external it's all internal so starting to get around that and being more authentic especially be more authentic with people right you're so worried about rubbing somebody the wrong way saying something wrong to somebody getting someone's disapproval that that is destroying you right you're so worried about it not being able to live up to some image of how maybe you should look or how successful you should be or maybe even how you should feel or how many friends you have or the kind of the kind of parties and places that you go to or the house that you live in or the clothes that you wear you're so worried about that you don't realize that that stuff cannot make you fulfilled anyways even if you had it all in place so you really are misunderstanding what fulfillment and happiness is on a deep level you should probably check out some my other videos that really talk about what happiness is and how to get alright so solutions let's quickly talk about some of the solutions the fundamental solution is to start to do introspection and understanding of how your ego is creating your depression you have to start taking responsibility you are creating it you have to start to understand that and this is not something that you just are exposed to one time right here this is something you need multiple exposures to this is something that you should really start thinking about and start noticing about how you are creating the feelings in your life alright that is the most underlying solution I would say next on the list would be start to meditate this is so important if you're a person with depressive symptoms you need to start meditating at least 20 minutes every single day as though your life depended on it for some of you it actually might so start meditating I have other videos talking about meditation the benefits of meditation how to do meditation there are millions of books and resources out there join a meditation class do it yourself do it with a friend doesn't I don't care build a habit of it and follow through on that right and stick with it stick with it and you're going to see some amazing results another thing that you can do to really boost your meditation or I mean to mooster boost your mood get yourself out of depression is to start exercising consistently there have been actually studies that have been done that have shown that exercise is equally effective as zoloft in controlled studies of relieving depressive symptoms this study has been talked about in the book at the how of happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky and I'm sure you can find it in other places as well but this is the oh this is a powerful this is actually a powerful finding is that an antidepressant an exercise can have an equal impact on lifting your depression and in fact that study that they did showed that exercise is better because the exercise produces more lasting results because when you take yourself off the antidepressant you're back in your depressive mood whereas if you're doing your exercise and even if you get off that exercise the results of it lasts longer plus the exercise good for you anyways you should be exercising anyhow so that's another one all right then I want you to do the things the little things that you know you need to be doing wake up on time get to your job on time do your work well eat healthy all the little things that are important to you start doing them and if you don't know what's important to you start to clarify that Values Clarification I talked about value identification many other places you can get coaching on that to really get your values to understand who you are and what's important to you then start living to those principles of course life purpose if you're depressed I can definitely aren t you've got no life purpose you probably don't because if you've got a strong sense of purpose and you know what you're committed to creating in life and your life is not about yourself but it's about serving others it's about having creative impact it's very hard to be depressed that's why I'm rarely depressed is because I have a very strong sense of life purpose I've worked on it a lot so get your life purpose into place I have a lot of videos I'll talk about that you can also get coaching on that if you're really serious I do poach in on that and then if you really want to get a handle on depression and not only that but take it to the most highest level possible I encourage you to look into serious meditation work serious contemplation work really working your way towards enlightenment research the idea of enlightenment I have some videos that are going to talk about enlightenment really research the idea of ego your subconscious mind and enlightenment and commit yourself to that spiritual work that you do with enlightenment because what that is going to do is that's going to put you in that present blissful state that you are naturally capable of being in and that is going to completely shift you because right now you're in the exact opposite of all that all right so that's it this video ran a little bit long because there's a lot of deep stuff in here plus a little bit of these practical tips so I'm going to wrap it up here this Leo signing off go ahead please comment on this let me know what you think leave me your your comments like I said like this share this with friends and of course check out Ashley eyes org for more advanced person videos where I really talk about how to 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